For many people, there will come a point in your marriage where the question of divorce begins to linger. One of the most important questions we ask our clients from Smithtown and various other towns along Long Island is “Have you or your partner changed?” People change over the course of time and often, these changes affect the compatibility and happiness of the relationship. If you are finding that you are no longer sharing your lives the same way you’ve had, it might be time to consider divorce, so that you both can find someone to share your life with separately. Whether you take the plunge or not, it is important to take some consideration before proceeding to the next step.
Another question to consider, was there a breach of trust such as an infidelity? Broken trust can be something that is very difficult to overcome. You may be able to forgive but many cannot forget. Forcing yourself to stay in a relationship that makes you insecure is not good for your overall health and well-being. A previous client from Smithtown, New York dealt with the same scenario and ultimately was able to overcome the emotional trauma it with their partner. It will depend from person to person.
A third question to consider is the intimacy between you and your partner. It is perfectly fine if you and your partner are on the same wavelength when it comes your personal needs, but if one is left feeling unfulfilled it is a recipe for disaster.
Also, financial stresses tend to be a common problem for many people in the Long Island area; whether you live along the South Shore in Massapequa or along the North Shore in Smithtown.
Although spending and saving will vary from person to person in many relationships, extremely divergent behavior can put massive stress on any relationship. If your partner is so restrictive with money you feel stifled or your partner is putting you both into massive debt, this is a problem.
These four questions are important ones to consider when pursuing a divorce. Ultimately you have to trust your gut when making a big life decision like this. If your relationship is a source of pain and unhappiness, a divorce is certainly something you both should consider.