During a divorce you and your spouse will be focused a lot on whose fault it is or how did this all happen so fast. A lot of emotions will shed losing sight of the most important thing to you, your children. Some tips to keep in mind for your children when going through a divorce is encouraging them not to take sides. Don’t use your child as a defense mechanism that the divorce is not your fault. Keep the arguments behind closed doors because at the end of the day your child shouldn’t have to pick a side from hearing one side of the story.
Don’t use your child as an emotional support system. If the divorce is tough on you don’t make it harder for your children by venting about the issues. Your child will have a hard enough time dealing with what’s going that your own emotions should rather be talked about with a therapist. It’s important to come up with a parenting plan for your children. There’s going to be a lot of difficult scenarios as far as school breaks and vacations over custody of your children. So it’s important to be mature and responsible enough to work something out as a plan to see your children an equal amount of time. You can always talk to a custody mediator whose job is to create a plan that works for both parties keeping the children’s best interests in mind. You should always make your children feel comfortable and let them know everythings going to be okay. As a parent you are your child’s biggest role model and support system, so its important to let them know nothing will change and you will always be there for them even when separating from your spouse.
Children want to see their parents happy and the best thing to do when moving forward with a divorce, is figure out how to hide your emotions minimizing trauma to them. Use your friends as a support system, not your kids. Remember your children will be able to move on if you can. If you need any advice or have any questions regarding children custody and other ways to help them, Simonetti & Associates is here to help.
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